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Mediator Mentoring for Mediation  Reflective Practice and for Business Development

Mediator Mentoring from CAOS Conflict Management

CAOS Conflict Management offers Mediator Mentoring for practice review and improvement and Business Development and Social Media and Internet Marketing mentoring for mediators wanting to enter into, or enhance their online presence in this growing area of business.

Contact us to arrange your first session!

We have always had a strong commitment to continuous review and learning amongst the CAOS Learning Community of Mediators and Conflict Coaches and so we can offer a simple, yet powerful approach to learning from casework experiences.

Mediators we have trained work in the fields of:

  • Homelessness mediation
  • Family Group Conferencing
  • Neighbour Mediation
  • Keyworker - Child in care mediation
  • Special Educational Needs Mediation
  • Workplace dispute mediation
  • Group dispute mediation
  • Student complaints mediation
  • University related mediation - such as student complaints, staff disputes, accommodation disputes
  • NHS Complaint Mediation
  • Conflict Coaching

...... and we are constantly developing new areas in which to provide mediation - because of its wide applicability and clear benefits.

Using this wide range of experiences to draw upon we provide ongoing support for groups of mediators or 1-to-1 Mediator Mentoring as described on this page.

Who will provide the Mediator Mentoring? 

Alan Sharland has mediated in many different areas of mediation over a period of 28 years including mediation of complaints (student complaints, NHS complaints, SEN disagreements), discrimination (disability) and relationship breakdown at work, within families and in the community (workplace disputes, neighbour disputes, community organisation group disputes). 

Alan has also established an independent community mediation service and been its Director for 11 years. He has substantially enhanced in-house provision of mediation by an NHS Health Authority. Additionally he has provided consultancy and training to enable Universities, community groups and local authorities to set up Mediation provision to assist with the resolution of various different types of dispute. 

CAOS Conflict Management also has Associates with a wide range of mediation experiences, and from a similar background to Alan, who will also be available as Mentors. 

A major challenge for any mediator is to resist the temptation to 'fix' situations they mediate in and trust that participants have the capacity to find their own answers to their situations. 

Mediator mentoring can help a mediator to recognise where they may be doing this and to explore different ways of responding in such situations that continue to support the empowerment of participants, and, in turn, make impasse in meetings far less likely as participants are not 'wedged in' by a mediator's attempts to push for a particular outcome. 

"I have found the support sessions with Alan to be invaluable.

As I work on a wide variety of cases, situations have arisen that I felt unsure about or that didn't turn out how I was expecting. Alan has been available to talk things through with. He embodies the principles and skills, asking open questions and listening in a way that allows me to question my assumptions and explore my perspectives on the issues I'm having. It's a relief! I always leave the support sessions feeling more confident in myself as a mediator, and clear on what I want to do differently. 

I hugely appreciate this support - so many courses leave you without any follow up once you've done their initial training." 

Jenny Owen (linkedin profile link) 
Mediator, Conflict Coach and Freelance Trainer

Jenny has recently (April 2022) become Mediation Co-ordinator at University College London Hospital.

Mediator Mentoring for Mediation Business Development and Social Media and Internet Marketing

At CAOS Conflict Management, we are often approached by people who have trained as a mediator but who cannot get started working in this field. 

Common beliefs amongst newly trained mediators include: 

1. Joining a panel or association or other mediator group will give them credibility that leads to work. 

2. Searching for 'jobs in mediation' via search engines and online/offline publications will lead to work.

3. Going on a local court or local authority register of mediators will lead to work. 

4. Volunteering for a local community mediation service. 

5. Being 'accredited' will mean they get work while those who are not accredited will not. (See our webpage on this often confused or even mis represented topic) 

Ultimately, there is no 'one' way of gaining work as a mediator or conflict coach but common mistakes include:

Starting by offering it for free or 'very low rate' and never getting out of that rut until such time as it proves unsustainable.

Missing the immediate opportunities available from your past and present connections. Something led you to train as a mediator or conflict coach so it is likely you were aware of unresolved conflict in a particular context. That can be a signal with regard to where to focus your energy. Instead people can try to reinvent the wheel in a completely new area. 

Thinking that getting started means spending all day on twitter or facebook or another social platform. These are potentially powerful platforms for advertising what you do but they can also be a lot of work for little gain. 

If you want mentoring for your business development as well as your practice then this can be included in your mentoring session - as long as you realise there's no 'quick fix' but there can be useful reflection on what you are doing that works and what doesn't and which direction is likely to be best for your circumstances. 

Mediation Skills and Case Review Mentoring

However, you may be looking for mentoring entirely focused on your mediation practice and our Mentors will all have at least 12 years experience in mediation, and in a wide range of different fields of practice to draw upon to support you in this.

But just as important as experience in our view is that we have a firm bedrock of Principles and Underlying Philosophies that inform our mediation practice that we use to support our review and improvement of our skills and to gain insights for future practise arising from the carrying out of our work. 

These Underlying Philosophies and Practical Principles will also form the bedrock of our mentoring so that it provides you with a clear and coherent framework in which to learn from your reflections on your experiences or to prepare you for upcoming cases you are involved in.

How much does Mediator Mentoring for Mediation Practice issues cost?

1 hour session: £90

1½ hour session: £120

2 hour session: £150

It is usually recommended that a mentoring session lasts at least 1½ hours but this is not fixed.

Payment is required at least 48hrs in advance of the session to confirm. 

(We give a reduction for CAOS Trained Mediators

To become a CAOS Trained Mediator please click here 

If you wish to become a CAOS trained Conflict Coach, please click here.

How is Mediator Mentoring Provided? 

We can meet with people 1-to-1 at a venue of their choice, within London, however this will incur additional charges for travel time/costs. 

We can provide mentoring via Zoom.

We can also attend a group mediator mentoring session for practice related issues and facilitate discussions centred around the group's mediation experiences and support group learning in relation to this. 

We provide this for groups of mediators that we have trained, for example in Universities or local authorities or other groups, including our own regular support sessions for our Learning Communities of Mediators and Conflict Coaches who have trained with CAOS Conflict Management. 

If you would like to have mentoring from Alan Sharland or one of our experienced Associate Mediators, please contact us by email at this link or  call us on 020 3371 7507 to set the ball rolling.

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Join our Online course: 

An Introduction to the Philosophies, Principles and Practice of the CAOS Model of Conflict Coaching - Click this link to find out more

Online Conflict Coaching Skills Introductory Training Course.

This is what people say about CAOS training...

"In my 20 years experience as an academic this is the best ‘in-service’ training I have experienced. The quality of the training team’s preparation and the skill with which they conducted the course was impressive."

Dr Meretta Elliott -Senior Lecturer-School of Arts-Brunel University - speaking about a 6-day Mediator training course run by Alan Sharland and colleagues.

"This was not an easy course; the challenges involved in working outside one’s usual mode of operation were considerable, but the upbeat attitude of the trainers and the calm and supportive atmosphere they created meant that I was free to work outside my comfort zone in developing an approach to assisting others deal with their own situations."

Dr Mary Richards - Subject Leader for Drama - Brunel University - also speaking about the Mediator training course.

"This was a very successful workshop, feedback described the day as “fun”, “interesting” and “informative” with a “superb” trainer who had a “very thoughtful approach”. 100% of our attendees said they had enjoyed the course and they would recommend it to colleagues."

Tania Murrell - Business Development Manager, Hillingdon Association of Voluntary Services - speaking about the workshop 'Dealing with Difficult Behaviour' run by Alan Sharland.

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"Alan provided excellent training for mediators at Common Ground Mediation which was challenging but also thoroughly enjoyable.

He led us through various interactive exercises to help us reflect on the mediator's role and impartiality. I would highly recommend Alan as a trainer for mediators."

Morag Steven - Director of Common Ground Mediation, Edinburgh, Scotland.

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