CAOS provides Conflict Coaching for individuals who are experiencing difficulties as a result of an unresolved dispute, a complaint, a relationship breakdown, anger management issues, experiences of bullying or other difficult situations they are involved in.
The difficulty could be at work, within the family, in the neighbourhood, anywhere.
This page explains some of what is involved and the thinking behind this support service and provides links to pages describing the ways in which it can be used in different situations.
Please contact us on 020 3371 7507 or via our enquiry page if you would like to discuss having Conflict Coaching.
No, it is neither therapy nor counselling. Its purpose is to enable the client to reflect on their difficult situation or unresolved conflict, and their responses to it, in order to help them create different ways of responding that support them in dealing with it more constructively and more effectively.
There is not an ongoing 'therapeutic' relationship with the Coach and the sessions explore how the client is responding to their present situation rather than explore any personal history or events in their past. The Coach does not 'analyse' the client or give any form of diagnosis or label.
Call us on 020 3371 7507 for more information or contact us via the form lower down this page.
Conflict Coaching is available via Skype and so is also available to overseas clients or those unable to make it to London - please request this when you contact us.
"All the time we wait for others to change, we remain frustrated, outraged, stressed, depressed - and we render ourselves powerless. Conflict Coaching offers people the opportunity to question and possibly change their responses to, or their views and beliefs about a situation. This is not to remain 'passive' in the face of unacceptable behaviour, it is to find a way of supporting ourselves first in order that we can respond more effectively to the behaviour we find unacceptable or to find a different way of seeing the situation if we feel unable to do anything to change it. Through creating different responses or perspectives we give ourselves a choice, and having choices, created by ourselves, leads to empowerment." - from our newsletter : 'What is Conflict Coaching?
Conflict Coaching is a 'one-to-one', confidential, impartial service involving just the client and the Coach.
We do not accept referrals of clients. Even if conflict coaching is paid for by an agency or employer or other organisation, all clients have to refer themselves.
In order to get the most from the process it is important that any client:
Conflict coaching is provided through 1-3 meetings usually 1½ hours or sometimes longer with a CAOS trained and experienced Conflict Coach.
Why is it limited to a maximum of 3 sessions?
The purpose of Conflict Coaching is to support a client in making new decisions, about creating new perspectives to their situation, about learning and practising new ways of responding to their situation.
Having continuous sessions risks them becoming ways of 'offloading' stress about a situation without leading to any change. At CAOS, our view is that this can risk simply entrenching the difficulty rather than help the client to create change. That change may simply mean creating a different perspective without needing any external 'action'.
The limit of 3 sessions challenges the client to step out on their own to deal with what is ultimately their 'owned' difficulty - or - to actively decide that at present they do not wish to deal with the problem but can perhaps develop ways of supporting themselves within the situation as it is. Whichever they choose, the limit to the number of sessions offered is 3.
Tell me more about the thinking behind Conflict Coaching:
Sessions draw upon the following:
Conflict Coaching supports independence and self-responsibility, improved confidence and self-esteem, not dependence on an 'expert' regarding how to move forward with a difficulty.