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Conflict Coaching

CAOS provides Conflict Coaching for individuals who are experiencing difficulties as a result of an unresolved dispute, a complaint, a relationship breakdown, anger management issues, experiences of bullying or other difficult situations they are involved in. 

The difficulty could be at work, within the family, in the neighbourhood, anywhere. 

This page explains some of what is involved and the thinking behind this support service and provides links to pages describing the ways in which it can be used in different situations.

Please contact us on 020 3371 7507 or via our enquiry page if you would like to have Conflict Coaching. 

You can also use the form lower down the page to request conflict coaching.

See this video for examples of situations people have worked through in their conflict coaching sessions:

Isn't Conflict Coaching just another form of therapy or counselling?

No, it is neither therapy nor counselling. Its purpose is to enable the client to reflect on their difficult situation or unresolved conflict, and their responses to it, in order to help them create different ways of responding that support them in dealing with it more constructively and more effectively.

There is not an ongoing 'therapeutic relationship' with the Coach and the sessions explore how the client is responding to their present situation rather than explore any personal history or events in their past.

The Coach does not 'assess' or 'analyse' the client or give any form of diagnosis or label to them, the focus of the sessions is on the situation they are involved in and how they are responding to it.

Where those responses are not working for them, conflict coaching provides a 'creative space' in which other possible responses can be explored and created that feel and work better for the client.

Conflict Coaching from CAOS Conflict Management via Zoom, Skype or FaceTimeConflict Coaching via Zoom

Conflict Coaching is available via Zoom and so is available from anywhere in the world that can access Zoom.

"All the time we wait for others to change, we remain frustrated, outraged, stressed, depressed - and we render ourselves powerless. Conflict Coaching offers people the opportunity to question and possibly change their responses to, or their views and beliefs about a situation. This is not to remain 'passive' in the face of unacceptable behaviour, it is to find a way of supporting ourselves first in order that we can respond more effectively to the behaviour we find unacceptable or to find a different way of seeing the situation if we feel unable to do anything to change it. Through creating different responses or perspectives we give ourselves a choice, and having choices, created by ourselves, leads to empowerment." - from our newsletter : 'What is Conflict Coaching?

Conflict Coaching is a 'one-to-one', confidential, impartial service involving just the client and the Coach.

We do not accept referrals of clients. Even if conflict coaching is paid for by an agency or employer or other organisation, all clients have to refer themselves and make their consent to participating clear.

In order to get the most from the process it is important that any client:

  • Acknowledges that there is a difficulty and that their own response may not be supportive of themselves or of resolution of the situation. (The two are usually synonymous)
  • Is looking for constructive ways forward that are not about finding ways of 'changing the other person(s)' involved in their difficulty but are about looking at their own responses and ways of changing these in ways that are more self-supporting.
  • Understands that the Coach will seek to remain impartial in their responses about the client's situation in order to ensure the client is challenged with regard to their own 'story' and their reasons for responding as they have so far.
  • Understands that the aim of Conflict Coaching is to support the client in empowering themselves and achieving self-responsibility for their situation, and their responses to that situation, so that they do not feel 'trapped' by their difficulties.

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Conflict coaching is provided through between 1-3 meetings usually 1½ hours  with a CAOS trained and experienced Conflict Coach.

Why is it limited to a maximum of 3 sessions?

The purpose of Conflict Coaching is to support a client in making new decisions, and creating new perspectives to their situation.

It is about learning, creating and practising new ways of responding to their difficulty that are more effective for them.

Having many continuous sessions risks the sessions becoming ways of 'offloading' stress about a situation without it leading to any change.

At CAOS, our view is that this can risk simply entrenching the difficulty rather than help the client to create change and move on from it.

That change may simply mean creating a different perspective on their situation without needing any external 'action'.

The limit of 3 sessions challenges the client to step out on their own to deal with what is ultimately their 'owned' difficulty.

This can sometimes mean 'just' creating ways of supporting themselves more effectively within the situation rather than for any major changes to occur.

On other occasions it can lead to the client making significant life changes. 

The point is, the outcome created is uniquely applicable to the circumstances of the client as it is created for and by themselves with the support of the conflict coach. 

Tell me more about the thinking behind Conflict Coaching:

Sessions draw upon the following:

Conflict Coaching supports independence and self-responsibility, improved confidence and self-esteem, not dependence on an 'expert' regarding how to move forward with a difficulty.

The way forward is created by the client themselves through having a dedicated, confidential space in which they can reflect on their difficulty and be supported in their creativity through the use of open questioning skills by the conflict coach.

Please call us on 020 3371 7507 for more information or contact us using our Online Enquiry Form.

Click on the links below to find out more about the areas of difficulty in which CAOS Conflict Management provides Conflict Coaching:

Workplace Disputes Family Disputes

Group Conflict Coaching Bullying

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How to Resolve Bullying in the Workplace

"Alan Sharland has written a vital book on bullying. His approach is the way forward. Instead of focusing on 'proving it', which takes us in the direction of investigations and hearings that go no where and only serve to exacerbate an already sensitive situation, he shows the way forward through direct communication and a focus on the behavior that is of concern."

 John Ford - HR Mediation Academy

The CAOS Conflict Coaching Clients Handbook

Here's a Handbook to help you practise more effective communication and to review and improve how you are responding to unresolved conflict:

Conflict Coaching Clients Handbook

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Conflict Coaching from CAOS Conflict Management
Tel: 020 3371 7507

Would you like Conflict Coaching but you don't live in London?

No Problem!

We can provide it via Zoom!

Please let us know you'd like your Conflict Coaching via Zoom when you complete a Conflict Coaching Request form.

Are you:

An employer wanting access to Conflict Coaching for your employees?

A service provider wanting access to Conflict Coaching for your clients?

A health professional wanting access to Conflict Coaching for your patients?

Please CONTACT CAOS if you have an enquiry about Conflict Coaching or our other services.

Train to be a Conflict Coach with CAOS Conflict Management. Courses for individuals and for organisations. Click the link above to find out more.

"Hello [Coach], Thank you so much for coming the other day. I immediately put some of the things into action. I feel so much happier since then, as if a weight has been lifted. The situation has improved no end. I do feel empowered. I hope other people can benefit as I have done .... Thanks again." - Conflict Coaching client

Conflict Coaching for Executives and Senior Managers

Conflict Coaching for Workplace Disputes

Conflict Coaching for Family Disputes

Conflict Coaching for Bullying

Group Conflict

Conflict Coaching at Christmas

"I'm writing to say THANK YOU VERY MUCH! for the Conflict Coaching sessions. I found them very helpful. It's helped me to realise though I continue to have difficulties that I can approach and look at them differently. And feel more empowered to face difficult situations."- Conflict Coaching client