Contact CAOS Conflict Management on 020 3371 7507

About CAOS Conflict Management London, UK  

CAOS Conflict Management, based in London, UK, is led by Alan Sharland who has 24 years experience as a Mediator, Conflict Coach, Facilitator, Trainer and Consultant in Mediation and Conflict Management processes.

Alan Sharland Mediator, Conflict Coach

Alan has worked in a number of mediation organisations during this time including as:

  • Director of Hillingdon Community Mediation
  • Mediator of NHS Complaints for Lambeth, Southwark and Lewisham Health Authority,
  • Case Manager for Hackney Mediation Service and Camden Mediation Service.

He has provided mediation, conflict coaching and conflict management and communication skills training and teambuilding workshops for a large and diverse range of organisations including:

  • Brunel University
  • UCAS
  • University of Plymouth
  • University of East London
  • De Montfort University, Leicester
  • School of Oriental and African Studies (SOAS)
  • London Borough of Hillingdon
  • Bedford Borough Council
  • Dell Computers
  • Apollo Housing Group
  • Hillingdon Association of Voluntary Services
  • Hillingdon AIDS Response Trust
  • Harrow Samaritans
  • Broadacres Housing Association
  • Herts Young Homeless Group
  • The Bridge, Leicestershire
  • Association of Student Residential Accommodation (ASRA)
  • Salvation Army
  • ......... and many others.

Alan has provided mediation in a range of different fields including:

  • Workplace disputes,
  • University Student complaints,
  • NHS Complaints,
  • Neighbour disputes,
  • Disability Discrimination disputes,
  • Special Educational Needs disagreements
  • Group Disputes
  • Family related difficulties

How to resolve Workplace Bullying Allegations

"Alan Sharland has written a vital book on bullying. His approach is the way forward. Instead of focusing on 'proving it', which takes us in the direction of investigations and hearings that go no where and only serve to exacerbate an already sensitive situation, he shows the way forward through direct communication and a focus on the behavior that is of concern." John Ford - HR Mediation Academy

Please click on the image above or the text below to purchase this book written by Alan Sharland, Director of CAOS Conflict Management: 

How to Resolve Bullying in the Workplace: Stepping out of the Circle of Blame to Create an Effective Outcome for All.

CAOS Effective Communication for Conflict Resolution

Guide to Effective Communication for Conflict Resolution introduces the 9 Principles that are also described on this site to help the reader develop a 'mindfulness' in relation to their communication in a way that supports the resolution of conflict. In this book 

Alan shares his observations and learnings from working as a Mediator and Conflict Coach with regard to the ways that people become stuck in unresolved conflict but also how they go on to create more effective ways forward in their difficult situations. 

"I think you put together so well all the essential components of
conflict transformation in a way which people can relate to and
understand. A brilliant book and I will recommend it to everyone."  

Jo Berry  -

London-based but providing for all of UK

CAOS Conflict Management provides mediation and conflict coaching mainly in London and the South East but provides training throughout the UK.

CAOS is able to draw upon a number of Associate Mediators who are experienced professionals in the fields of mediation, conflict coaching, facilitation and training, all of whom have extensive experience of working in conflict management.

There are also CAOS Conflict Management Trained Mediation and Conflict Coaching Practitioners who have recently completed one of our 6-day Mediation Training Courses or 5-day Conflict Coaching Training Courses.

All CAOS recommended Mediators, Conflict Coaches and Trainers satisfy the strict criteria CAOS expects of the practitioners it employs or recommends to continually reflect on, improve and develop their skills and provide a professional level of conflict management support.

As you will see from the rest of this website and Alan's other website Communication and Conflict, that means a commitment to developing self awareness and humility in the presence of those experiencing unresolved conflict so that we support empowerment not disempowerment and promote capacity building, not dependence.

"Seeking to control or change others in a conflict is conflict suppression and conflict avoidance. It doesn't work.

Seeking to control or change ourselves in a conflict situation leads to conflict resolution. It does work.

Effective conflict resolution support enables people to find ways of controlling or changing themselves.

Ineffective support has an approach in which the practitioner intervenes in a way that implies he/she knows 'better' than those in conflict how to control or change themselves.

Hence, he/she tries to control, and to change them rather than support them in changing themselves." Alan Sharland - Communication and Conflict website

Here's a 1 hour webcast that Alan did for for their Community of Practice for Workforce Development called Conflict Management Skills and Practices for a More Engaged Workforce:

And here's a link to a guest blog post Alan wrote for the same site:

Conflict Management Tips for a More Engaged Workforce


We welcome your thoughts about the contents of this page. Please leave a comment in the box below.
Or click here for html code for your blog, facebook page etc.

Would you prefer to share this page with others by linking to it?

  1. Click on the HTML link code below.
  2. Copy and paste it, adding a note of your own, into your blog, a Web page, forums, a blog comment, your Facebook account, or anywhere that someone would find this page valuable.

Join our Online course: 

An Introduction to the Philosophies, Principles and Practice of the CAOS Model of Conflict Coaching - Click this link to find out more

Online Conflict Coaching Skills Introductory Training Course.

CAOS Conflict Management

Alan Sharland, Director of CAOS Conflict Management has had 12 articles featured on, the world's leading mediation website.

Click on the links below to see the articles he has had published on the site.


What Is Conflict And How Do We Approach It?

The No-blame Approach In Mediation



My Body Language, My Tone Of Voice, The Colours I'm Wearing.... They Don't Mean a Thing


President Barack Obama's Effective Communication

Effective Interpersonal Communication

Let’s Be Clear, Mediation Is NOT Arbitration

What Is A Bully?

Cultural Awareness - What Does That Actually Mean?

Please CONTACT CAOS if you have an enquiry about any of our services.


Communication and Conflict find out more about the thinking behind the Mediation, Conflict Coaching and Training provided by CAOS Conflict Management.

You can also see other articles Alan has written about Communication and Conflict Resolution related issues at these links:

There's No Such Thing as a 'Difficult Person'

What is a Bully?

The 3 Cheers for Conflict - Learning, Connection and Insight

Taking a No-blame Approach to Difficult Situations

Tolerance Can Be Overrated

.....and many more examples at this link